People, Sherman Park

“We did what we had to do”

Lonnie Hughes stand just off the curb in front of his home in Sherman Park. He talks with a friend as he leans on the handle of a broom, his right hand covered by a tattered work glove.

“When I moved to this neighborhood, it was a fantastic—well, it’s still a great neighborhood,” he says. “People agree, neighbors get along great.”

Though the block Hughes lives on now is a far cry from Jim Crow Mississippi, parts of it are oddly reminiscent of the old South where he was born and raised. He says there were positives, as well as the negatives.

“You knew your neighbors, everyone looked out for each other,” Hughes says of growing up in Mississippi. “When I had a dinner, you ate dinner with me. Everyone just knew everyone. If I had a pain, you had a pain — you felt what I felt.”

“The toughest part were understanding why this white kid could have a car, and I can’t have a car — little things like that,” he says. “You know, why they had the best of everything and we couldn’t have the best of everything.”

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Racial tensions were not discussed at the dinner table, Lonnie says — it was just the way things were, back then. Make no mistake, it was prejudiced. But Hughes says, regardless, his family taught him “the value of how to treat people.”

“My grandmother used to tell me this: it will get better, you keep livin’, keep livin’ — you’ll see.”

Lonnie says his mother and father didn’t complain about the situation they were in. Instead, they simply dealt with it, an attribute they passed on to their children. He says, in the long run, that type of approach and example made him a better person.

“It taught me … how to treat my fellow man,” he says. “I don’t have no prejudice — no. I don’t look at people bein’ white, black, yellow, whatever — I don’t have that in me.”

It’s natural for people to feel bitter about how they’re treated or what they don’t have, he says, but learning to let go is important as well. Lonnie’s experience taught him to forgive. “If I’m gonna keep it in my heart and soul all the time it’s gonna build up a lot ‘a hatred and anger,” he says.

He says the key is to prepare for what’s ahead. “You’ve got to prepare yourself — it’ll be alright. It’s not gonna be alright if you don’t prepare yourself,” says Hughes. “If you don’t prepare yourself for anything in life, you’re not gonna succeed.”

“I have to give it to my family; my family, most of ‘em went to college, they prepared a way for themselves to be educated. You know, they didn’t feel that they had to depend on anyone — they worked hard,” he says.

“Whenever family leave a good mark … the apple don’t fall too far from the tree — it’ll leave a good apple there, not a bad apple,” Lonnie says. “I’m proud of my family. They left a good apple.”

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When Hughes came to Milwaukee for good around the age of 17 or 18, there were “plenty of jobs,” he says, a reality that drew many migrants to the city in the 60s and 70s.

“You had the choice to work wherever you want[ed] to work,” he says.

Lonnie drove a Milwaukee County Transit System bus for 37 years, originally settling in Sherman Park because it was close to the 35th Street station.

“She fell in love with us,” he says of the woman who sold him and his wife the house they still live in. “We bought the property, and we’ve been here, and we’re not planning on going no place.”

He’s visited Mississippi, here and there, and says it’s good to “remember where you came from,” but Lonnie’s life is here, now. He raised three children in Milwaukee, and was able to send them to college on his bus driver’s wages.

Hughes says he’s tried to set an example for his children, just like his parents did for him. He calls his experience being a father “great,” adding, “They respect me; I have a lot ‘a respect for them. It’s nothin’ but love.”

“The role model of a family, you have to remember: the example I leave, someone in my family gonna remember,” Lonnie says. “Everyone wants something good; everyone wants to meet somebody happy; everyone wants to meet somebody important.”

These days, he’s focused on continuing to set an example for his grandchildren. “You know, maybe one day … I could tell ‘em what I went through,” he says.

And, even though some parts have been hard, Hughes says life has been good to him. “I am quite pleased. I’ll be 67 pretty soon and I look back over life and say, ‘Wow, man, this is—this alright.’”

What’s he looking forward to, at this point?

“Goin’ to heaven,” Lonnie says with a long laugh. “I’m excited about that.”

 

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